“We are complete with or without a mate, with or without a child. We get to decide for ourselves what is beautiful when it comes to our bodies. That decision is ours and ours alone” Jennifer Aniston
Over the weekend, I missed a call from a friend. It would have been no issue but she had called two days earlier and been really busy then I made a mental note to call back… I hadn’t and here was another call. I knew her well…this was going to be an issue. I quickly pressed “redial”. First words out,
“I thought you were avoiding me because I might ask if you’re finally settling down”
I managed to get through that call with our longtime friendship intact but my feelings were ambiguous but today, I am more focused.
What if I never get married? Why should anyone feel it’s alright to get on my case about it?
It is my choice and my right and I am very comfortable with the life I am living. I have watched and I am watching as friends and relatives (older and younger) get married and begin to have kids while I have consistently put my career and whatever ahead of getting married and having kids and not once have I had a twinge of regret.
What if I never get married? Does that make me a second class citizen? Does that prove that I have a spirit husband? Does that show that my manners and temper were so horrible no man could stick around? Does that invite anyone to trash talk me because I am unworthy of breathing the same air they breathe in? Has marriage ever cured cancer?
I remember telling my mother before I was even a teen that I hated the idea of marriage. Of course, my mother said it was “foolish talk” from a child and cautioned me against speaking negatively towards my future. But many years down the line her pressure on me to settle down borders on sensory assaults.
I hold nothing against the institution of marriage but I pour contempt on the very idea that someone is a lesser being unless they’re married.
I know a first class material who is suicidal because she isn’t yet hooked up. All the brainpower focused on doing what is conventional.
What makes women think that it’s alright to amount to nothing so long as they can cook and clean? (And down the road their house help becomes their competition in their “sacred” marital home)
What if I never get married?
What if YOU never get married? Will that be the end of the road for you?
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